From Nervous To Confident in 30 Seconds
We now know that music and motion can create instant confidence, but what happens when you encounter a stressful situation where music and exercising just isn’t an option? What do you need to do in building self-confidence in 30 seconds?
For instance, have you ever come face to face with someone intimidating or gotten into a heated debate and couldn’t think of the right thing to say, or worse you put your foot in your mouth? Or have you ever been put on the spot or got on stage in front of people and your mind went blank?
As a musician, coach and teacher, I’ve found myself in these situations hundreds of times and invariably they all set off my internal fire alarm of fear. From my experience, without a quick solution, things can rapidly spiral out of control.
What’s most interesting is that according to Author and contributor to “Psychology Today” Dr. Glenn Croston: “Surveys about our fears commonly show fear of public speaking at the top of the list… so great that we fear it more than death.”
But why is this and how can it help you even if you’ll never speak on a stage?
Social psychologist, teacher, and a sufferer of social anxiety, Dr. Signe Dayhoff says it’s because we fear being rejected or abandoned. Fortunately, the good news is that ‘Confidence’ is the opposite of ‘Fear’ and there is an incredibly powerful tool you can use to instantly feel confident and quell fear in these high-pressure situations.
Notice when you’re feeling really stressed, fearful or overwhelmed, if you simply take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth, you’ll not only feel instant relief but you’ll gain greater clarity about the right action no matter how challenging the situation may be.
Learning how to use your breath to refocus on the things that really matter, while letting go of the things that don’t, is one of the most powerful yet simple tools you will ever use to build confidence. So remember this one:
Breathe Deep For Instant Confidence!
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