Having Issues Getting Hard The Root Cause Of Your Man Problem

We have discussed in my last article Worries Wilt Your Wiener – Natural Ways To Combat ED that stress is one of the major reasons for having issues getting hard. Now, I’m going to discuss more root causes that you need to address to get your man rising again.


Many men who experience erectile challenges feel an overwhelming sense of guilt about being unable to satisfy their partners.  Psychological studies show that guilt is often paired with low self-esteem, not just in men who experience symptoms of ED but also in men who experience long-standing issues with depression.

Unfortunately, when guilt and self-esteem work hand in hand they create a vicious cycle, which only leads you further down the path of depression and helplessness.  

For example, you may feel guilty about not being able to please your partner because of low self-esteem (maybe you failed a lot in the past) but this low self-esteem only multiplies when you add guilt to the equation.   If this is you, don’t worry; we’ll handle this self-sabotaging belief shortly.

Fear of intimacy

The fear of intimacy or that you are somehow incapable of satisfying and pleasing your partner can also cause an inability to sustain an erection.

Often times, these feelings are brought on by years of failure in relationships and other areas of life.  This could also manifest as that small voice in the back of your head we talked about earlier – the whinny little kid telling you that you aren’t worthy because you were rejected in the past.

These feelings of uncertainty create a lot of self-doubt, which brews and builds into a self-sabotaging time bomb.  Sadly, this bomb tends to detonate right before you slug it out of the park and get barreled in her tunnel of love.  

If you’ve read my book Get High On Confidence, you’ll have discovered that uncertainty is the opposite of confidence, which means you’ll more likely be hearing that small voice again saying something like, “you’ll never be able to satisfy her,” or “you’re worthless don’t even try.”  Again, if you suffer from these challenges, don’t worry! I got your back; just keep reading.


Depression is more than just a simple case of the blues.  Rather, depression is marked by long-standing feelings that tend to kill motivation and happiness and linger well beyond an upsetting event.

Some of the most common symptoms of depression include feelings of emptiness or hopelessness, angry outbursts or irritability, loss of interest, feelings of worthlessness and difficulty concentrating. These symptoms make it difficult to even contemplate the thought of sex, much less get a boner.  

If you feel you suffer from depression, just know, you’re not alone.   To some degree, everyone suffers from depression to some degree at some point in their life.  The key here is in learning new lifestyle habits that mitigate depression including the redirection of your focus onto beliefs that lift you up into the light rather than pull you down into a dark hole.  Yep… we’ll handle that shortly.

Stress and Severe anxiety

Similar to guilt and feelings of low self-esteem, stress, and anxiety feed each other in a vicious cycle. Prolonged stress causes anxiety and increased anxiety also contributes to increased stress, which all lead to… “Dead Dick.”

When you’re under stress your body releases adrenaline, which constricts your blood vessels.  Unfortunately, as we learned earlier, increasing blood flow is the key to erection strength so this certainly doesn’t bode well for getting your soldier to stand tall.

For instance, when your mind is focused on problems surrounding work, relationships or financial worries, it will be difficult to relax and focus on what is happening in the present moment.  

And while a stress response may have been critical to our survival back in Paleolithic times when we ran from predators like tigers and bears, today things are quite different. 

Instead of tigers and bears chasing us, we have financial challenges, road rage, and relationship disputes.  Sadly, these consistent low dosages of stress eventually build up and lead to burn out, depression and DD.

Since this is so important, let’s break it down scientifically so you can understand the important events happening in your body when you have a buildup of stress and a breakdown of sexual potency.

Your Cardiovascular System

When stress occurs, your heart rate and blood pressure, along with stress hormones like cortisol begin to escalate.  According to doctors at the University of Rochester Medical School, studies suggest that high levels of cortisol from long-term stress can increase blood cholesterol, triglycerides, blood sugar, and blood pressure, which are all common risk factors for heart disease.

Repeated acute stress and persistent chronic stress may also contribute to inflammation in your circulatory system, particularly in your coronary arteries, which is one pathway that is thought to tie stress to a heart attack. Unfortunately, as we learned earlier, heart disease is a primary contributor to ED.

To learn more about other root causes and how to address them, I highly suggest reading Man Up– The Ultimate Guide To Natural ED Cures, which will reveal you how to fix your problem without having to pay hundreds if not countless dollars to a physician.


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