When we think of confidence, it may seem somewhat intangible, hard to describe and perhaps even unobtainable, yet its importance is rarely disputed.   When choosing a book about building self-confidence it’s important to understand that confidence has many levels and without addressing these various levels you may find your confidence weak and vulnerable to outside influences.  For instance, you win the game, the job, the love of your life and the next day you lose a fortune in the stock market or you can’t seem to leap over the next career hurdle.   What keeps you from falling off the confidence wagon?

Instead of simply elucidating the most common forms of confidence which are vulnerable to outside influences, in the new book “Get High On Confidence” by Chad Scott, three distinct levels of confidence are identified with science-backed solutions for achieving the ultimate confidence – “Independent Unbreakable Confidence.”    In the book, this is referred to as the “Triad of Unbreakable Confidence.”

Why A Triad of Confidence?

The power of ‘3’ turns out to be one of the most indestructible forces in nature. For example, compared to other shapes, the triangle is the strongest of all due to its inherently stable and rigid nature.

But even more importantly, the magic number 3 turns out to be the sweet spot for recalling information and forming powerful alliances.[1]

And when it comes to alliances there is no greater synergy than the power of mind, body, and spirit to forge an unbreakable state of confidence, which gives you the ultimate high.

The First Level

For example, in the first level of The Triad, we may see confidence showing up “Physically” in a person’s physical appearance, body language, skill level and abilities.  Notice if you identify with any of the underlying challenges from the following scenarios.

National Football League MVP Tom Brady stands patiently in the pocket during a clutch moment at the Super Bowl while multiple 300-pound linemen close in for the kill. Remaining calm, he then throws a perfect 40-yard spiral to his tight end to win the game. While Tom wins the game, Doug, a marketing executive at Henderson Appliances can’t throw a football to his coworker five feet away without breaking a lampshade. What’s the difference?

Beyoncé performs in front of 71,000 people and nails her performance without skipping a beat; while Melanie struggles through a performance of a song she’s practiced 100 times. What’s the difference?

World Champion surfer Kelly Slater looks over the edge of an 18-foot wall of water at Teahupoo in Tahiti and successfully drops into a wave that could crush a ship on its sharp reef; while Raymond looks over the edge of 10-foot paddleboard on a calm lake and can’t seem to stand up. What’s the difference?

The Second Level

In the second level of The Triad, we may see confidence showing up “Mentally” in our mindset, beliefs, and attitude.

For instance, Tony Robbins stands on stage comfortably devoid of anxiety or nervousness and gives a powerful speech in front of 5,000 people without missing a beat. But many people fear stage fright more than they do death and can’t even imagine getting up in front of 5 people just to say hello. What’s the difference?

Arnold Schwarzenegger trains hard at the gym and becomes Mr. Universe at age 20. He then goes on to become Mr. Olympia 7 times, which then emboldens him to take even greater leaps forward into acting and politics. But longtime rival Lou Ferrigno, who was much larger and won Mr. Universe twice, lost in a head to head battle against Schwarzenegger and never achieved the success of his rival. What’s the difference?

Andy sees a beautiful woman in line at the market and says without hesitation, “You look absolutely amazing today, what’s your name,” while Travis can’t stand patiently at a party full of beautiful women for more than 60 seconds without looking at his iPhone. What’s the difference?

Halle Berry believed she was worth more than she was getting paid, so she demanded equitable compensation and became one of the highest-paid actresses in the world, while Jessica, a highly underpaid legal aid, never asked for better compensation and settled for less. What’s the difference?

The Third Level

Finally, in the third level of The Triad, we tap the unseen power, faith or “Spiritual” component.

Orio Palmer, a Battalion Chief of the New York City Fire Department was committed to helping others and ran into danger for a living.   On September 11th, 2001, during a planning session to rescue civilians at the World Trade Center, Orio heard the sound of falling bodies hitting the pavement, but remained calm and confident.   While he rushed into the burning building never to return, most would never even consider running in no matter who needed to be saved. What’s the difference?

Mahatma Gandhi stood up against the entire British Empire without any money or weapons. Unfortunately, Stan can’t find it in himself to stand up and take action against the corrupt politicians who take bribes and spend his taxpayer dollars on golf lessons. What’s the difference?

The difference in all of these scenarios can be attributed to the various levels of confidence. And while most of what you’ll learn in this book will clearly fall into one of these three categories there are some cases of crossover where certain challenges and their accompanying solutions will require tools and strategies from more than one level.

To find out more about Getting High On Confidence and building your own triad of unbreakable confidence visit this self-confidence books link and grab a copy today.


[1] Nelson Cowan The Magical Mystery Four: How is Working Memory Capacity Limited, and Why? Curr Dir Psychol Sci. Author manuscript; available in PMC 2010 May 4. Published in final edited form as: Curr Dir Psychol Sci. 2010 Feb 1; 19 (1): 51-57. doi: 10.1177/0963721409359277


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