Based on my previous blog, we’ve talked about how society’s pressure on yourself has a huge impact on your self confidence. On today’s blog we’ll be talking about how to improve your self worth with the help of the circle of results model.
The Circle of Results Model
To get new results I’ve created a model called the Circle of Results Model, which works as follows:
As you can see from the diagram above, there are five steps in the Circle of Results Model, where each step leads to and influences the next.
1) Beliefs lead to => Thoughts
2) Thoughts lead to => Emotions
3) Emotions lead to => Actions
4) Actions lead to => Results
5) Results lead to => Reinforce Beliefs
But this revelation of changing your beliefs and subsequent thoughts, emotions, and actions to create new results is not something new. In fact, it dates back thousands of years and has been embraced by histories greatest sages, leaders and psychologists including the historical Buddha who roughly 3,000 years ago declared:
“What We Think We Become.”
Naturally, when a powerful statement like this is proven to work over thousands of years we see multiple masters from multiple disciplines and cultures that confirm its credibility. For instance, Bruce Lee, one of the greatest martial artists of all time, confirmed this Master Mantra by declaring:
“As You Think So Shall You Become”
And if The Buddha and a Martial Arts Master don’t quite tip the scales for you, consider psychologist Dr. Wayne Dyer who declared:
“As You Think So Shall You Be”
In the psychology world, these mantras are employed by thousands of therapists worldwide, most notably Cognitive Behavior Therapists (CBT).
As a widely used psychological treatment, CBT has helped thousands of people build the confidence to overcome depression, anxiety disorders, alcohol and drug use problems, marital problems, eating disorders and severe mental illness.
Adding even more credence to the Circle of Results Model the creator of CBT Dr. Aaron T Beck himself famously declared:
“By correcting erroneous beliefs, we can end the overreactions”
While beliefs may underlie the root of the problem the more important question becomes: How do you change them?
The Roots & The Fruits of Confidence
One of the best analogies for creating new results is a tree that bears fruit. As you can see from the diagram below there is a 4-step process, which creates the fruits of confidence as follows:
- You take action and focus on something, which feeds and influences your roots (beliefs).
- Your roots (beliefs) are also fed and influenced by the soil, which is your friends, family, co-workers and the media you read, watch and listen to.
- Your roots (beliefs) are created from step 1 and 2.
- Your fruits (results) or lack thereof are the results of steps 1, 2 and 3.
For instance, using health as an analogy, let’s say you get sick one day and your health just isn’t up to par. But poor health isn’t the problem; it’s the result of some cause, rather than one day just randomly getting sick.
A more likely scenario is that you got sick because a week ago you stressed your body way out of balance with intoxication, lack of sleep or both and your immune system was weakened to the point where it could not fight off a very common virus or bacteria. Illness is created when the host (you) are toxic or out of balance.
So in using our roots to fruits analogy, poor nutrients in the soil may represent poor nutrition or intoxication from drugs or stress from a breakup or lack of money, which all lead to a breakdown in your immune system (the roots). This then translates into fewer nutrients to the trunk and branches and as a result, the fruits either don’t grow at all or they’re rotten (you get sick).
Let’s use another analogy like money. Lack of money isn’t a problem; it’s a result, which could be related to not working, working on the wrong things or spending too much and not saving. But if we look at our roots to fruits analogy, the roots are your beliefs, which then created lack of work, working on the wrong thing or too much spending and not saving (the fruits or lack thereof).
Unsurprisingly, this ‘result’ thing doesn’t just apply to health and money, but to all of your results including confidence.
A lot of my clients say, “I don’t have the confidence to take action,” but again, as we mentioned at the beginning of this book lack of confidence is not a problem it’s a result. And from our roots to fruits analogy, confidence comes from taking specific actions. The keyword here is Action!
This is a good time to get another rep in and strengthen your belief about how important action is by repeating the following statement to yourself at least five times:
You must take action to get confidence!
If you aren’t as successful as you’d like to be with making money, finding the relationship you so desire or creating a robust healthy body, chances are you may lack money, love or good health, but lack of these things isn’t the problem, they are the result.
The result comes from the roots, which are your beliefs, which come from the water and soil or what you’ve focused on in the past and been conditioned to believe in the present. Now ingrain this one in your head:
Your beliefs are determined by
what you’ve focused on in the past and
been conditioned to believe in the present!
It’ll take time to gain back your self confidence. But don’t worry, I’ll be here to help you out with your journey. If you’d like to learn more, check out the top-selling book Get High On Confidence by Chad Scott here.
