When I was doing my research into writing what I’d hoped to be the world’s greatest book on confidence I came across a lot of people who were struggling with some of the same problems and looking for the same results, but asking a slightly different question like how can I build self-esteem or get more courage.

Confidence Relatives
What I discovered was that while confidence is a powerful trait in its own right, it’s often interpreted as or interchangeable with other powerful traits like courage, self-esteem, and self-love. Notice the close resemblance of these definitions with our assessment of confidence from earlier:

  • Courage – the ability to control fear and to be willing to deal with something that is dangerous, difficult, or unpleasant
  • Self-Esteem – confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect
  • Self-Love – love of self, an appreciation of one’s own worth or virtue.

Now notice the interchangeability of these terms as follows:

  • She didn’t have enough confidence to speak up for herself.
  • She didn’t have enough courage to speak up for herself.
  • She didn’t have enough self-esteem to speak up for herself.
  • She didn’t have enough self-love to speak up for herself.

For the dudes out there we could also say something like:

  • He didn’t have enough confidence to ask her on a date.
  • He didn’t have enough courage to ask her on a date.
  • He didn’t have enough self-esteem to ask her on a date.
  • He didn’t have enough self-love to ask her on a date.

What’s the difference?

You could argue until you’re blue in the face about the subtle differences and get bogged down in semantics but why waste your time.  Instead, in this book, we’ll be recruiting these powerful family members as our allies to reinforce your Triad of Confidence and make it even more “Unbreakable.”

Besides, it turns out that many of the same tools and strategies in our confidence building formula also build self-esteem, self-love, and indomitable courage. But even more importantly, is the fact that all of these character traits function to create the ultimate high I call “Independent Unbreakable Confidence.”  This master trait is built on three key levels of confidence to form the Triad of Unbreakable Confidence.   If you’d like to get rid of depression and learn how to be more confident I highly recommend checking out the book Get High On Confidence 


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